"There is a crack, a crack in everything. It's how the light gets in."
Finding out about your partner’s affair is one of the most devastating events in a person’s life. Everything you as a couple held as true has been destroyed with the revelation or discovery and it seems life as you know it will never be the same.
Attempting to teach communication skills to a couple who has been through an affair is like rushing to the scene of a car wreck with a first aid kit – on the right track but severely limited! Affairs and the issues that are behind them must be confronted head on with skill and specialist knowledge – the pain for both the betrayed and the one who had the affair is unlikely to go away until this happens.
Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth has surveyed thousands of couples who have been through an affair in their marriage/relationship over many years. She estimates about 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women cheat at some point in their marriage – a startling number and her latest survey of 1083 people in 2002 found that most marriages survive an affair. So if there has been an affair in your marriage – you are not alone and it is possible to save your marriage.
Catriona is a leading Affair Recovery Specialist. Please go to her Affair Recovery Website for more information.