It never ceases to amaze me how busy people are these days. Catch phrases like “time poor” have become part of our language. When you add it all up in a relationship where both partner’s work, or work and care for children, grandchildren or others and then add in all the other things you have to do to take care of yourself (like shower and sleep) and anything else, there really are very few hours left unallocated.
Relationships with our partner (and others) thrive on time spent taking an interest in and being a part of the other person’s day to day. How do we do fit it all in? There are two secrets to this that I share with you now: firstly, you have to make the moments count and secondly: schedule, schedule, schedule!
Small things often – it is the little things that add up but each one may only take a moment. That quick txt between meetings to let your partner know you are thinking of them or the big hug and kiss as you come in the door. Even if you are rushing off to do something else those moments matter.
Undivided attention – schedule time in your week for just your partner and when this time happens make it free from all distractions. Turn the television off or put your phone away – the world can live without you for a short while and it will give you the space you need to really focus on your partner. Get creative about how this can happen
Make a plan for the big blocks of time – the nights out, the weekends (or longer) away, the days spent together all remind you of why you fell in love in the first place and leave you wondering why you don’t do it more often.
While scheduling might sound hard and lacking in spontaneity the reality is that in our time poor world if it isn’t scheduled then it is unlikely to happen – start small and build on it. I know you and your relationship will reap the rewards.
Until next time
PS If you are wanting more ideas for making the time you and your partner have together amazing, my Relationship Workshops are the best time you will ever spend with your partner focusing on each other and on your relationship. You can find out more here...